Positive Inner Dialogue: Transform Your Life by Speaking Kindly to Yourself

The way we conduct our inner dialogue has a profound impact on our lives. Mastering a positive inner dialogue is key.

I'm convinced that there's no worse person who speaks more poorly than oneself. We have a capacity to demand and criticize ourselves harshly at the slightest circumstance. Imagine someone comes to you for advice when they made a mistake. The first thing you do is tell them not to worry, that there’s surely a solution.

Perhaps you ask for more information about the situation to better understand it and give objective advice. In most cases, you wouldn't tell them it was terrible, they're weak, or how could they do or not do something like that.

Does this sound familiar? It's very difficult to attack them with harsh or critical words that add to the problem they already have. But when it comes to ourselves, how do we talk to ourselves? We demand so much that we decide to compare ourselves with others, criticize ourselves for not achieving what others have achieved. We decide we're not good enough to do new projects or try new challenges.

When you look in the mirror, how do you talk to yourself? Do you tell yourself how good you look, how much you work on yourself, do you pat yourself on the back to embrace what you've achieved? Be honest, or do you look in the mirror and have little time to dedicate to reflecting on how well you've done?

I frequently hear people commenting with negative words, which plant a pattern in their brain of how they perceive things:

• "I hate this system."

• "It's hard for me to do it right."

• "It's complicated to change options."

• "Surely it won't be easy."

• "I don't know how to do that."

• "They always treat me badly."

• "They intimidate me."

• "I'm not as good as…"

Everything we say to ourselves and how we express ourselves forms a pattern that we get used to walking. We forget that there are always options, and that we have value as people, as professionals, with acquired skills and experiences that distinguish us.

We give space to those habits and patterns that don't represent who we really are. The problem is that we don't allocate time to reflect and be honest with what we're telling ourselves and how we communicate.

I've always thought that people who criticize and judge do so because of their inability to recognize what they really lack or need to build in themselves. They continue to talk to themselves negatively, with internal judgments, but when they externalize them, it becomes a judgment on others, on circumstances, or factors beyond their control.

The success of what you undertake begins with giving yourself your place first, recognizing your values, your successes, your values, and how you talk to yourself to project it outward.

If you make the effort and start this change little by little, you'll begin to notice how you build better relationships, better connections, and receive greater abundance. Transform your life by cultivating a positive inner dialogue. Learn to speak kindly to yourself and build a reality based on self-love.